I don't think I know how to deal with stress.
I think stress is not having control over things that you think you should. But I typically look at a situation, if I can do anything about it, I try to do something. If there is nothing I can do about it, I just don't. I continue along in life until I see something I can do to improve or end the situation. Otherwise, life as usual, you know? My body however, is not quite as in sync with my brain. I get a skin irritation whenever my body senses stress (it's been almost continual since I graduated from high school). This is what makes me think I don't know how to deal with stress. Like, what is a stress reliever? I always figured a stress reliever was like, not procrastinating or finishing projects on time. But that is my active "I can do something about this situation" stress reliever. What about when there is nothing that can be done? How can I convince my body that it just needs to chill out?
For example: I am moving across the country starting like, tomorrow. Ben is already out there working. Companies have been paid to do all the packing and moving and car-moving for us. So what am I supposed to do? Compound that with a very fevery, teething baby and a 3 year old who can't seem to find the toilet or cook her own food. There is a lot of crying going on over here.
My body has moved beyond a little itchiness, when that little warning did nothing to affect me, my body pulled out some bigger guns. Now I am having intense allergic reactions to - it seems - everything. I took an allergy pill finally last night, now my lungs and throat are congested too. Plus the fogginess from the drugs. I am at a loss.
I know a lot of people have the same kind of thing, I have a friend who swears her tongue goes numb when she's stressed out.
I am practical to a fault, thus if I can't foresee the benefit to something, I'm sure it won't help, and am generally unwilling to attempt it. I need active problem solving. Someone to tell me to "clean this" and "move that" would be great, but I can't figure those out for myself either. It's a good thing I married a type A guy who can take charge of a situation. I just sit and wait to be given instruction.
In any case I can take comfort in the fact that a month from now this will all hopefully be a distant memory.
I think stress is not having control over things that you think you should. But I typically look at a situation, if I can do anything about it, I try to do something. If there is nothing I can do about it, I just don't. I continue along in life until I see something I can do to improve or end the situation. Otherwise, life as usual, you know? My body however, is not quite as in sync with my brain. I get a skin irritation whenever my body senses stress (it's been almost continual since I graduated from high school). This is what makes me think I don't know how to deal with stress. Like, what is a stress reliever? I always figured a stress reliever was like, not procrastinating or finishing projects on time. But that is my active "I can do something about this situation" stress reliever. What about when there is nothing that can be done? How can I convince my body that it just needs to chill out?
For example: I am moving across the country starting like, tomorrow. Ben is already out there working. Companies have been paid to do all the packing and moving and car-moving for us. So what am I supposed to do? Compound that with a very fevery, teething baby and a 3 year old who can't seem to find the toilet or cook her own food. There is a lot of crying going on over here.
My body has moved beyond a little itchiness, when that little warning did nothing to affect me, my body pulled out some bigger guns. Now I am having intense allergic reactions to - it seems - everything. I took an allergy pill finally last night, now my lungs and throat are congested too. Plus the fogginess from the drugs. I am at a loss.
I know a lot of people have the same kind of thing, I have a friend who swears her tongue goes numb when she's stressed out.
I am practical to a fault, thus if I can't foresee the benefit to something, I'm sure it won't help, and am generally unwilling to attempt it. I need active problem solving. Someone to tell me to "clean this" and "move that" would be great, but I can't figure those out for myself either. It's a good thing I married a type A guy who can take charge of a situation. I just sit and wait to be given instruction.
In any case I can take comfort in the fact that a month from now this will all hopefully be a distant memory.
3 comments:
What you need is a good long chat with your favorite LJ.
That's true. You need a stress relief like a conversation with a friend, or a good cry, or a movie, or getting your head scrubbed by a beautician.
I'm so sorry that this is so stressful. It is SO stressful. You aren't overreacting. it is just a really really hard thing. You can do it though.
Sometimes not having anything to do is more stressful than having to do everything.
I am excited to hear about your new adventures. I am sad we didn't get to see each other but seeing each other has never really been our style. We'll just have to plan on seeing each other again some day in the future.
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